by Sean Croxton
I’ve made mistakes.
I’ve said things I shouldn’t have said.
I’ve gotten defensive when I should have been more understanding.
I’ve been critical when all she wanted was compassion.
I’m sure I’m not the only one.
It would be an understatement to say that communication has not been my strong suit in relationships past.
As open and personable as I may appear on the internet, I haven’t always been the easiest person to get along with in real life, especially in intimate relationships.
Raised in part by a show-no-emotion Korean War tank commander father and growing up around the fairly affection-less (read: macho) Mexican side of my family, effectively communicating my innermost feelings was a skill I never acquired.
As you could probably imagine, my deficiencies in communication, affection, and openness beset each and every one of my intimate relationships, from high school to…well, last year.
At some point it finally dawned on me that the one common denominator in every nasty breakup was me.
Fortunately, I’m a firm believer in two things…
The first is that anything can be learned. Anything.
The second is that there are some things you just can’t do on your own.
Regardless of how many books I had read on communication and intimacy, none of it had a lasting impact on my behavior and relationships.
When that’s the case, the next step is to find a mentor.
So on the recommendation of a friend, I scheduled an appointment with Matthew Sanders. (I like to call him Yoda.) And for the past year or so, I’ve spent many hours on his couch learning and perfecting the art of being a more communicative, affectionate, more open man.
It’s amazing how powerful words can be — they can hurt or heal, inflame or resolve, break apart or reconnect.
You just have to know what to say and how to say it.
In today’s video, Matt — he’s a SexyBack presenter, by the way — and I talk about how being more vulnerable can lead to more sex.
Guys, listen up! I know the word “vulnerability” sounds kinda wussy, but hear the guy out.
Trust me, it works. 🙂
Although I’m still a single guy, I no longer feel like I’m lacking in the areas mentioned above. And while I haven’t completely mastered them either (I still screw up now and then), I feel far more equipped to be in a relationship.
Not just to be in one, but to stay in one.
Like I said, anything can be learned.
Check this out…
Contact Matt for your FREE 15-minute call at [mlspsych at gmaildot com].
Host, The Sexy Back Summit
P.S. Catch Matt’s What So Sexy About Vulnerability? presentation at the SexyBack Summit. Save your spot —-> www.sexybacksummit.com